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Find out what a body language expert has to say regarding the way you carry around your handbag.
The secrets of the hold
We frequently spend lots of time trying to pick out which handbag to carry on every day, and that preferred purse says a lot about yourself. But not much second thought is given into the way we decide to take it. Whether you prefer to present it in your hand, elbow-crook, or across the shoulder, it is not a random-decision. According to body-language specialists, it can say a lot about our inherent personality. We spoke with Patti Wood, body-language expert & speaker, to find out exactly how to decipher hidden messages in the way we present our go-to accessories. She has spent over 30-years conducting-research, writing books, and speaking about body language. “I am fascinated by purse behavior,” notes Wood. “Purses are a gender identifier: a way to show your status, your taste, personality, and creativity.”
Over one shoulder with a bag close to the body
You are practical and need others to show that they’re worthy of your trust. When you meet new people, you consider these signs that they can be trusted. As someone mainly looking to get things done, you do not want to waste your time with little things. Your cautious and wary tendency that means you feel need to be smart in public and watch out for yourself. According to Wood, “If you tightly grip the handbag and pull it, it is more inclined to fear, lower self-confidence or concern of your purse being stolen.”
Over one shoulder with bag swinging freely
Different from the hands-free look, your purse hangs easily on one side of your body, not your front. You are characterized by your spontaneous, carefree outlook and want to take life as it comes. People know you as being confident, self-assured. Wood also notes that you like to show your style, but you still require a certain amount of freedom. You do not put a priority on designer labels and brand names, the swinging and open style signifies that you favor functionality over display. Whatever brand you choose, these are some things you should never keep in your purse.
In the crook of your elbow
This strategy depicts a flaunting of prestige & authority. You put a priority on position and status and can specify that you’re carrying a purse with a heftier price tag. While you may sometimes be referred to as “high maintenance,” you know what you desire to receive from the world. (Take this quiz to find out how high maintenance you’re really.) According to Wood, the arm crook can hold the most width, so carrying a larger handbag signs that you like to be seen. “I see celebrities do that with their big “double handled” high-status bags. Part of it is the weight & breadth and if they do not want to hold it this way, it makes their body look bigger and matronly in photos. If it is held out more from your body, a common style practiced by A-listers, it depicts power. You are wearing the bag as if it is a badge of honor or an award. You feel just like you have got a sense of superiority.”
In your hand
This style exudes a more-sophisticated and put together quality. People think of you as being efficient, assertive and well-organized. This is the most similar to carrying a briefcase and can communicate the importance of the person’s job. Your ambitious characteristics shine-through, and you excel at focusing on the task at hand, probably because you are armed with these things you keep in your purse to assist you to become more productive. People also tend to carry a bag this way when they desire to attract more attention to the outfit itself you do not want your purse to be attached to it. Instead, the purse merely becomes a separate item to accentuate your clothing.
In front of the body with both hands
Body-language experts refer to this as “two furry,” which indicates shyness and a need to protect oneself. You may suffer from” anxiety” in social-scenarios and like to stay out of the spotlight. “I see young-women do this in public situations where they do not know people or in stress-situations, and if they are generally shy,” Wood says. These are the basic signs your social anxiety is truly a disorder.
You’d like as much freedom of movement possible, coupled with a feeling of protection & accessibility. This technique allows for the most convenience to be able to get into your bag, but until then you wish to move through the world easily without feeling-encumbered. “Function is more important than appearance in any “cross-body” handbag,” says Wood. “Some people carry and use “cross-body” bags and they think it is the easiest, safest and most secure if you’re walking a lot. You see this in people who live in big cities like” New York” and with people who travel a lot.” Sound like you? Then, you need these tips on how to pack lighter when you travel.
You tote around a calm, cool and gathered personality that is more trusting of others. You’re also walking with a clear goal in your mind, and the bag is analogous to your autonomous individuality. You do not want to concern yourself with the things you need to carry Instead, you are great at shaking off life’s burdens and like to view life through a more casual and relaxed lens. Your bra may reveal the same thing concerning your personality.
People who sport a backpack tend to be independent and want to take care of themselves and the people around them. While freedom is very important, you mainly like to be prepared for any situation. Steal these back to the school tips to keep your backpack organized wherever you go. Unlike cross body gals, you do not like to leave anything to chance and tend to be the most dependable one of the group. You strongly depend on healthy living and look for comfort in having a sense of belonging. Additionally, your natural- nurturing instinct may be stronger than others. You do not stress about what other people think of you determine your own-coolness, and pride yourself on being “self-sufficient”.
No bag at all
If you neglect a bag altogether, you signify a privileged position where others (whether it be a boyfriend or assistant) carries the load for you. This” personality” is the most “self-assured” of them all; you have so much going on for you that carrying a handbag is not something you have to concern yourself with. Alternatively, it could just mean that you are completely unencumbered and want to move freely. According to Wood, in this situation, it shows that you’re very secure in your own identity, and you like to be based on who you are as opposed to the things you wear. Curious what your other accessories say about you? This is what your shoes reveal concerning your personality.